It can be difficult to understand why your parents have decided to divorce. Suddenly it can feel like your whole life has changed. Most people who have experienced the break up of their parents’ marriage identify the divorce as a key event in their lives, no matter what age they were when the divorce took place. It is important to realise that you are not alone even though you may feel like no one understands what you are going through.
You might find that you have difficulty expressing how you feel about the situation, especially to your parents. In fact, because you recognise how much your parents are hurting you might feel that it is wrong for you to talk about your hurt or anger. However, it is important that you find someone that you can talk to about these feelings with.
You can try to talk to your parents who probably want to make the transition as painless as possible for you. However, if they are pre-occupied, you should seek support from a sibling, another relative, friend or teacher. Your parents may wish to keep the details of their separation private but it is important that you have an outlet for your feelings.
Often, children feel that they may somehow have contributed to their parents’ divorce or they may think that if they had behaved better or kept their room tidy then their parents would have stayed together. Nothing could be further from the truth. Marriages break down for many reasons but when a couple makes that difficult decision to divorce, it is an adult decision based purely on their problems within the relationship.